We know it may feel at that times when talking to your man, it’s like… talking into thin air! It’s not necessarily because he doesn’t care to listen, but rather that he listens a bit differently than you do. We’ve got six tips that just may help move the conversation along with your man and ensure that he not only hears you, but listens, too.
Pick the perfect place and time
This is particularly important to ensure you’re both listening and understanding each other while in conversation. Avoid loud, distracting places (especially if you are about to have a serious discussion) and make sure you don’t chat at times when you are both tired, cranky or angry.
Look him in the eyes
We all know the importance of eye contact; it’s one of the main aspects of flirting, after all! Doing so shows the importance of what you’re conveying and will keep him engaged with what you’re saying. Looking away or focusing your attention on something else while you speak may make your man think your story isn’t to be taken seriously.
Start at the end
If there is a point to the anecdote you’re telling your man, start with that first. By doing so, your man will be aware of what the point of your story is from the get-go instead of impatiently waiting for you to get to it.
You may be the type who likes to get into serious detail when discussing something, but men usually like to hear the important details and skip on the filler. So resist going into long monologues, and stick to the important parts of your story. And if at a certain point you need his advice, tell him so; don’t wait for him to offer it.
Ask him questions
Keeping your guy an active part of the conversation is important, so don’t just go on and on and expect him to listen. Ask him questions, ask him to offer you some input on what you’re telling him. This keeps him involved; if all you do is use him as a sounding board, his mind will eventually drift.
Choose your topics wisely
We’re sure your man is keen to listen to the goings-on of your day and about any problem you may have, but don’t bother him with stuff that are better suited to be discussed with your best gal pal.