Moving in with your significant other is a big step when moving forward in your own life and with the plans you have in mind. After years of being together it is common to learn more about sharing space, becoming co-dependent and relying on one another to get through everyday struggles, challenges and celebrations. Understanding a few truths about moving together may help you to determine whether making the big move is the right decision for you and your future.
1. We Get Comfortable
Adjusting to living with your spouse or significant other may feel foreign at first, especially if you have rarely had to give up or share space of your own in the past. Over time however, we become more comfortable living with one another, which means sharing everything from food and laughs to uncomfortable bodily noises.
2. Chores Eventually Become Chores and Should Be Evenly Divided
When you choose to move in with your significant other it can at first be easy to take on the task of maintaining and cleaning the house yourself. However, when you are completely sharing a space with someone it is reasonable to expect similar efforts to keep your home as clean and as healthy as possible. Ensuring chores and tasks around the home are divided evenly helps to avoid potential anger or arguments that stem from one another not putting in enough effort around the house over time.
3. The Honeymoon Phase Does Not Last Forever
Although you may be over the moon and excited about joining together with your significant other in a home with one another, just be sure to understand that the “honeymoon” phase is not ever-lasting. Although it is always possible to love one another, keep the jokes flowing and the dates planned, it is also reasonable to expect that you are likely to not always feel adored and special, especially once you are comfortable with spending every waking moment with one another. Keeping the honeymoon phase alive is possible with hard work, effort and commitment from one another lasting through years. However, it does not mean you will have “off” days of your own, where you simply feel as though you are upset, down or depressed.
4. You Eventually Share Everything
Moving in together can at first feel as if you are conjoining everything you own but also keeping a separate distance. Once you have lived with a spouse or significant other for a few years you begin to quickly realize just how much you share with one another. If you are not all for sharing your beauty products, food and furniture, joining in and moving in with another individual is likely not your best option.