Build long-lasting love with your significant other
Is your relationship lacking a little oomph these days? Here are five tips on how to reignite the flame. These minor tweaks in your behaviour may just bring on a major result—a bond of trust, love, and closeness between you and your beau that’s stronger than ever before.
1. Put down the smartphone.
Yes, we live in a day and age where a minute hardly goes by without checking our email, sending a text, fiddling with an app, or surfing the web. However, we’re all aware of how damaging this can be to our real-life, personal relationships. Think about how annoying it is when your guy is playing a game when you’re trying to have a conversation with him; equally irritating to him is you being on your phone updating your Facebook status when he has something to say. If you want to get closer to your guy, the first thing to do is put your phone on silent, or better yet, turn it off altogether for a little while, so the two of you can spend some one-on-one time together without any tech interruptions.
2. Look him in the eyes.
Now that you’ve put down the tech toys, it’s time to maintain major eye contact. Eye contact has always been the key to communicating with others, and just as this is important in business relationships, looking into your partner’s eyes when he’s talking is also essential to a lasting intimate relationship. Looking at him directly in the eyes tells him that he has your undivided attention and that what he has to say matters to you.
3. Remember his positives.
There’s a good reason why you are with your mate; in fact, there are likely several reasons. Though it’s easy to pick on his flaws or be irked by his bad habits, it’s better to simply overlook those minor faults and remind yourself of all the wonderful things you love about your guy. So, the next time it seems like he’s on a screw-up streak, try this mental trick: for every negative thought you have about him, think of five positive things about him. And have a little perspective, too, especially since nobody’s perfect (including you).
4. Laugh together.
Humour is a key ingredient to any healthy relationship, and there are definitely things that just aren’t worth arguing over. In the grand scheme of things, does it really matter if he’s the one who doesn’t refill the roll of toilet paper in the bathroom? Make sure to laugh together often—and by often, we mean every day, several times a day.
5. Demonstrate your love.
As the saying goes, “Actions speak louder than words.” It’s important to say “I love you”, but doing things out of the ordinary is a great way to add spontaneity to your relationship, as well as telling your guy that you’re happy to go out of your way to make him feel special. Showing you care doesn’t have to be a grand gesture, either, it can be the smallest of things such as surprising him with a batch of freshly-baked cookies or taking him to a movie of his choice.