What is polyamory?
At its core, polyamory is the philosophy of having multiple lovers. The practice is named using the Greek prefix for “several” alongside the Latin suffix for “love.”
Why are people polyamorous?
I arrived at this worldview when I came to the conclusion that I have more than enough love for just one person. It was a life-changing experience being able to have the realization that affection for a single partner doesn’t preclude feelings for other partners too. This occurred at a point in my life where I was truly evolving to overcome the unnecessary pettiness of jealousy. I think I was born this way, but the overriding monogamous culture convinced me otherwise. Overall, everyone has their own path to true love, and polyamory just happens to be mine.
When do people find out?
Polyamorous instincts can arise at any time. Most people discover their inclinations in college, but it is possible individuals of all ages to realize their inner personal truth.
Is polyamory dishonest or unfaithful?
The answer is absolutely not. If anything, polyamorous people have to practice more honesty than anyone. As for faithfulness, we believe it is possible to have many soul mates. I know for a fact that I belong equally to all of my lovers. If all communications are open, no one can consider non-monogamous liaisons to be cheating. Just like all other dating circles, trust is a top concern for us. Mutual faith in lovers is even more vital in a time where promiscuity can lead to diseases without proper care.
Does it have to do with sexual orientation?
While anyone can be polyamorous, the lifestyle seems most prevalent among bisexuals. This may be related to the fact that one gender cannot fully satisfy all of the cravings that a bisexual person has. The only way to be happy is by pursuing relations with partners of both sexes. I personally need to have the best of both worlds, so the polyamorous pursuit of life is the only way for me to feel sexually fulfilled and true to myself.
Do you have partners in the bedroom simultaneously or in rotation?
Here, the answer is: It depends. I personally enjoy having everyone I love all at the same time, but it can be difficult to organize. Still, threesomes are one of the best parts about not being monogamous. I enjoy being stimulated by multiple people at the same time, and it is also wonderful to have an engaged and active audience. When some of my lovers cannot make it to a sexy evening, they can still be included via online video chats.
How are living situations arranged?
Polyamorous unions decide where to live on a case-by-case basis. These unconventional relationships typically coincide with quirky residential arrangements. Many polyamorous people decide to reside in artistic communes, but others act completely nonchalant about their romantic lives.
Are there any downfalls?
Some people are simply unable to let go of jealous emotions. I’ve had to let go of some feisty flings because they could not adapt to my lifestyle. Their need for all of my attention seemed selfish and controlling. Another inconvenience can arise in the form of economics. Naturally, going on more dates costs more money. Holidays are also extra expensive, especially when it comes to buying presents for each partner! Still, the benefits seriously outweigh the hassles. In the end, in my world, more love equals more happiness!
