For better, or for worse… No need to have a ring on your finger to know that a loving relationship can deteriorate beneath the weight of a stressful event. Loss of a job, illness in family, debt: some of these events can jeopardize your couple’s unity. When your man’s crumbling under the pressure of it all, it can be difficult not to succumb, as well. Below are a few ways to help prevent tensions from rising.
Recognize stress + talk it out
The causes of stress are infinite. Any new situation that is beyond your man’s control can become a threat to him. With that, the pressure tends to rise quickly.
It is not always easy for our men to confess to being weakened by a sad event. Without bombarding him with questions, try to get him to recognize the source of his stress. He may then be more willing to talk about what is bothering him.
This is the perfect time to give him all of your attention. As you would with a good friend, be available and an active listener, even if the discussion lasts for hours.
Respect above all else
Stress can temporarily alter your partner’s character; he may become irritable and a little bit impatient. It is comprehensible; however, be sure not to tolerate any insults! Explain to him that your discussions must be conducted with mutual respect, which is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
On your end, try to keep your cool during your exchanges. Your mission is to reduce his tensions. We advise you to avoid placing blame and to control the tone of your voice. Don’t forget: when going through something painful, your beau really needs comfort.
Heal with your touch
As you know, tensions of the mind can cause physical reactions (headaches, body aches, weakness). Thus, the intimacy of your couple will be feeling the effects.
A lover’s touch is key because it gives a sense of appeasement. To reconnect with your sweetheart, try a little massage therapy to offer one another feelings of contentment and relaxation.
Accept your limits
Keep in mind that you’re not a psychologist. Be ready to accept that love, no matter how strong, can’t always overcome all of a couple’s problems.
If your man begins to slip into a depression, don’t hesitate to contact a health care professional. You should also seek outside help if you feel you’re about to break, as well. Before you can begin to help others, you need to make sure you’re taken care of first!