Hey, you! Sex is great (obviously). However, it’s not all about YOU having an orgasm and that’s it. Women usually take 10-20 minutes to reach climax, while men take a lot less. These days it seems like it’s all about booty calls, hook-ups… and no intimacy. There is only so much someone wants of that. When you connect with someone on a deeper level, that’s when climaxing together can become a reality.
Connect as friends
Liking your partner’s company, having regular face to face conversation (not texting and liking posts on Facebook) and showing genuine interest in them as an individual goes a long way. A relaxed and comfortable vibe sets the tone. Trust, an emotional connection, and feeling safe will help generate a positive experience.
Knowing each other’s sense of humour is key. When one of you starts to slide off the bed in the heat of passion, laughing together will help ease any tension that might exist if you didn’t know each other well.
Be familiar with your own body
Because of the busy lives many lead, there is sometimes a lack of personal attention given to our bodies. Stress, poor diet and lack of sleep–can lead to a crappy sex life.
If you haven’t formed a comfortable, accepting relationship with your body, it’s really difficult to have an intimate relationship with another person. Ladies: practice those Kegel exercises, have sex with the lights on, let him see you naked!
The nitty gritty
Let him stimulate your clitoris up to the seconds before orgasm and his thrusting will set off orgasmic reflexes. If you are into oral sex, 69 can bring two people to a climax frenzy. You are receiving and giving pleasure–a win win situation. Woman on top and anal sex both stimulate the vaginal wall and increase the chances of coming together.
Guys: learn to control your timing when you climax. This could take a while to do but if you can get it on for hours and then come when the girl is ready, it will be electric!
Climaxing together takes a lot of practice, effort and determination. If you are in a loving, secure relationship, it could be that much easier to achieve. Booty calls and hook-ups would be a thing of the past. However, the most important thing could be that strong emotional bond you have with another person, regardless of whether it involves simultaneous orgasms.
