5 measures for a safe + pleasant rendezvous
Perhaps you’re determined to break what seems to be a long, torturous dry spell, or you’ve simply met a tall, dark and handsome stranger who beckons you over with his irresistible smile and seductive glance. Whatever the reason, one-night stands provide the ideal platform for a pleasure-filled tryst with no strings attached. But while sex with a stranger has its benefits, intimacy with someone you hardly know poses some important risks. Before you find yourself heading for an impromptu night of fun with a mystery man, heed these tips carefully to ensure your spur-of-the-moment dance between the sheets is as safe as can be.
Go back to your place
Now that the flirtatious stares and small talk have turned into a mutual desire to consummate your attraction, you must decide where the deed will take place. Invite your companion back to your place, rather than head to his. Being in a familiar environment leaves you in control of the situation at all times.
Plus, you will feel all the more relaxed and better able to focus and enjoy what’s to come. Should your mystery man insist on taking the party back to his place, examine the situation very carefully. This is a stranger after all, and you should trust your instincts above all else. If the slightest thing doesn’t feel right, simply walk away. As fun and exciting as a potential one-night stand may be, it simply isn’t worth the risk.
Make sure you have a way to get home
After carefully assessing the situation, should you decide to follow him home, make sure to know where you are going. Take down the address, and memorize nearby landmarks, and street names. Always have a few taxi numbers in your phone, and some cash handy should you need to call it a night earlier than expected.
Let someone know where you are
Between the time you follow your conquest back to his place and the time you arrive at said place, find a moment where you can discreetly notify a friend of your whereabouts. No need to go into details. A one-night stand is all about secrecy after all, but a simple text message mentioning where you are as well as the address will do.
A one-night stand can be liberating, and unforgettable, so naturally, you would want to be alert to remember the occasion. Plus, the potential risks associated with being intimate with a complete stranger demand that you keep your guard up at all times, and you can really only do so successfully when you’re sober. Thus, drink in moderation before you head out with your partner.
Always use protection
It goes without saying that a night of passionate sex isn’t worth endangering your health. Don’t assume your lover for the night has any protection on him. Always carry a condom in your purse or clutch. When partaking in sex with someone you don’t know you immediately put yourself at greater risk of contracting HIV, or other sexually transmitted illnesses, so a condom isn’t a luxury—it is a necessity. Should your partner refuse to strap it up, then it’s time to go! No matter how much you desire this escape, your well-being isn’t worth the risk. Once the condom is on, leave your inhibitions at the door, and let the fun begin!