Just the other week, I was watching the classic film Pride and Prejudice and almost threw my pizza at the television with frustration. WHY? The two main love interests Elisabeth and Mr. Darcy don’t even kiss ONCE throughout the entire movie, yet they profess their love for one another to end the movie off. Seriously? Not even a kiss? They haven’t even sexted yet! (Just kidding).
Pizza still in hand, I then thought to myself about how much times have changed as I looked down at my phone and opened a direct message on Instagram. Surprise; surprise… another stranger sending me an unwanted picture of his package.
I’m not the only person who has experienced this nude photo-courting tactic (THANK GOD). Many of my girlfriends or guy friends receive nude photos or suggestive texts before meeting someone. In fact, many of my friends admitted to sending nudes as well to an almost stranger. My friend James claims he sent one to a girl because he thought it would “turn her on”. James also received a few nudes back from the girl he was conversing with, but he unfortunately never ended up meeting her. So basically, a complete stranger has his nude photos and vice versa… what if that person was lying about their identity? CAT FISH, anyone?
That being said, it seems like our society sees the “whole package” before we even get to foreplay through overly suggestive flirting and sending nude photos via text. So where did simple flirting go?
From a male’s perspective, James gave me his insight on the subject. He claimed that since he believes he is “well endowed” (LOL) he has a better chance of getting into bed with the girls he sends the nude photos to. But he also mentioned it wasn’t always a tactic to get laid; he actually liked some of the women and sent photos just for fun. Suuuure. James mentioned that it was questionable when a girl would send him lots of nude photos, asking himself so how many other guys has she sent those to? But yet again, the girls could be asking him the same question.
So how do women know when they should or shouldn’t send a nude photo? I believe that if you truly think it is exciting, then go ahead and do your thing! However, here are my top warning signs for when you shouldn’t be sending them:
1. Constantly asking for nudies : OK. RUN.
If you have never met or don’t know each other well and he is constantly asking for nude photos, I would run. Fast. He should be asking you to hang out, not asking you to sneak off daily to the bathroom during your lunch break.
2. An out of date photo. LOL.
Hmmm. The description of the photo he sent you says “April 20th, 2010”… and it’s August 2015. Enough said. NEXT.
3. He gets angry…
There’s nothing worse than a guy who gets mad at you for not sending photos. Geez, relax. I’m sure you won’t die if you don’t see my boobs.
4. He’s way too particular about the photo
How many other girls have you asked to pose naked doing the splits? Seems too calculated… and painful. Ouch.
5. He never sends any back.
Now that’s just mean!
All things considered, I’m not against receiving nudies but I would rather at least meet the person first. However, it is quite entertaining receiving a random d*ck pic along with the text “so do you want to hangout sometime?” Right, because your d*ck needs to do the asking out…
I also do think I would prefer to be some what courted initially in a more traditional way sans nude photo, or maybe I’ve just been watching too much Pride and Prejudice lately… *sigh*